Day by Day for 365 days to the Future

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The collective human disorder is the belief that we are not enough. The belief that “I am not enough” is the root of most (if not all) forms of illness, poverty and unhappiness on the planet today. It is this belief of pure lack of self love that filters out to create lack in all other aspects of a person’s life. Most people do not truly love themselves. So if you are one of these people who believe you are not enough and therefore do not love yourself yet… you are not alone.

For you, to say “I love myself” would feel more like lying to yourself than telling the truth. For you, to say “I love myself” would contradict your own sense of intelligence therefore, it would make you more aware of where you aren’t than make you feel good about where you are. For this reason, the process of “365 days of self love” is for you.

This process is a stepping stone which serves to help you close the gap between wherever you are and self love. Right now in the current life you are living, you most likely struggle with being sure of your decisions because the basis by which you make your decisions is not that of self love. Instead, you make your decisions based on things like principal, wanting approval or symptom relief. But in order to live the life you were meant to live, you have got to get back in touch with your own personal truth and your own personal joy. Those two things need to become the principal motivations for any decision you make. Self love needs to be the foundation which you lay first and build the details of your life upon second.

To apply this process, you need to get a calendar and mark the day you plan to begin. Then you need to mark the day you plan to end (365 days later). Then you need to make a personal commitment. For exactly a year, every single day you are going to live your life by this mantra:

“What would someone who loved themselves do?” You are going to ask yourself this question any time you have to make a decision no matter how small or large. You are going to ask yourself this question whenever you have a spare minute where you have the opportunity to decide what to do with your time. Basically, all day, every day for an entire year, you will live your life according to this one simply question. When you ask this question, the answer will come to you immediately. It will come as an immediate flash of intuition. I want to talk to you for a minute about intuition. Intuition is defined as immediate insight or understanding without conscious reasoning. Many of us have learned to tune out or ignore our own intuition. Most of us have received negative messages from our parents, teachers, or peers, which caused us to doubt our own intuition.

By this point in your life, your intuition has most likely been obscured by the fears and beliefs that you have erected in front of it. But the good news is, though we may shut out the messages we receive from our true self, the true self continues to give them, so it is impossible to completely lose intuition. Intuition comes with a feeling of correctness and affirmation. Intuition will come as a sudden knowing, a gut feeling, thought, image, emotion, or bodily sensation. It will be a quiet, clear and often quick impression. Even if the message of intuition is about something negative, it will come across as being delivered in a “neutral” tone.

This is because genuine intuitive guidance comes from the highest of perspectives, a place of love and freedom where fear does not exist. If strong negative emotion is involved in an intuition, you should always be suspicious that you are either dealing solely with fear, or that you have clouded an intuition with fear. To truly listen for intuition means to listen with all of your senses. Intuitive messages come in many ways and they come differently to different people. You may hear the answer, or see the answer. You may just “know” the answer. You may get a physical sensation such as a chill or hot flash or feel the answer emotionally. As you practice listening and honoring your intuition you will get better at recognizing the ways by which you receive intuitive information, no matter what form it may appear in. When you ask yourself “What would someone who loved themselves do?” you are going to receive the correct answer for you personally in the form of intuition. The answer will come to you immediately. It will pop into your head. And then you are ready for the next part of the process, the part where you take action.

The action part of this process is the part which takes some courage. This is the part of the process where you are going to act on the answer you receive. You are going to heed your intuition and go in the direction of whatever your intuition has told you is in line with self love. For example, let’s say you are at home and you have a million things you could be doing but you can’t decide what the priority is. You’re going to ask yourself “What would someone who loved themselves do?” And if the answer is go take a bath, you’re going to go take a bath. Or if the answer is clean the house you’re going to clean the house.

You will know if the action you were told to take is correct and in line with intuition instead of rationalizations based on how you feel. Even if you are afraid to act on the intuition… the idea of the action and subsequently taking the action will emotionally feel like relief. Relief feels good. So taking the action will feel good if you have listened to your intuition (instead of rationalizations) and made a decision based on self love instead of any other criteria. For 365 days, you are going to ask this question whenever you have to make a decision as mundane as “should I eat an apple or an orange?” and as pivotal as “should I keep my job or quit my job”.

When you begin to apply this process, you will quickly find that we make decisions constantly throughout the day. The idea behind this process is of course that by the end of the 365 days, it will be habit for you to live your life in alignment with self love. What’s more, you will be incapable of living your life any other way. It will feel as unnatural to you as it really is, to live in line with anything less than self love. You will have created a new way of being. And you will be literally blown away at what has changed in your life both internally and externally.

I often refer to this process as the great shortcut. The reason is because in the field of self help, there are a million and a half modalities and techniques which exist to help us to live better lives. There are so many techniques one can use to improve one’s life that it becomes overwhelming. And in truth, they could all be abandoned for this one process. It is my belief that if people lived their entire life only by this one process, they would be led directly towards everything they are wanting, whether it is enlightenment, wealth, happiness, inner peace or freedom. That which we seek, no matter what it is, will always with no exceptions to be found via the route of self love. If we learn to love ourselves genuinely, we will embrace the whole universe.

This particular process is much more profound than it seems. The process of asking “what would someone who loved themselves do?” allowing your intuition to deliver the answer then acting on the answer will expose every roadblock you have in your way which is preventing you from living the exact life that you want to live. Because of this, it will cause you to face your demons. But it will allow you to face them in a way that ensures that you will not resist them, instead you will flow around them. If you’re really committed to this practice, you will flow around your demons and problems…downstream to everything you have ever wanted for yourself and for your life. You will meet with your joy. You will meet with your purpose.

You will meet with freedom. You will meet with who and what you really are. And eventually, you will know what it is to truly love yourself. And nothing, I repeat, nothing is of more paramount importance than that.



In 1998, Kodak had 170,000 employees and sold 85% of all photo paper worldwide. Within just a few years, their business model disappeared and they went bankrupt.

What happened to Kodak will happen in a lot of industries in the next 10 year - and most people don't see it coming. Did you think in 1998 that 3 years later you would never take pictures on paper film again?

Yet digital cameras were invented in 1975. The first ones only had 10,000 pixels, but followed Moore's law. So as with all exponential technologies, it was a disappointment for a long time, before it became way superior and got mainstream in only a few short years. It will now happen with Artificial Intelligence, health, autonomous and electric cars, education, 3D printing, agriculture and jobs. Welcome to the 4th Industrial Revolution. Welcome to the Exponential Age.

Software will disrupt most traditional industries in the next 5-10 years.
Uber is just a software tool, they don't own any cars, and are now the biggest taxi company in the world. Airbnb is now the biggest hotel company in the world, although they don't own any properties.

Artificial Intelligence: Computers become exponentially better in understanding the world. This year, a computer beat the best Go player in the world, 10 years earlier than expected. In the US, young lawyers already don't get jobs. Because of IBM Watson, you can get legal advice (so far for more or less basic stuff) within seconds, with 90% accuracy compared with 70% accuracy when done by humans. So if you study law, stop immediately. There will be 90% fewer lawyers in the future, only specialists will remain. Watson already helps nurses diagnosing cancer, 4 time more accurate than human nurses. Facebook now has a pattern recognition software that can recognize faces better than humans. By 2030, computers will become more intelligent than humans.

Autonomous Cars: In 2018 the first self-driving cars will appear for the public. Around 2020, the complete industry will start to be disrupted. You don't want to own a car anymore. You will call a car with your phone, it will show up at your location and drive you to your destination. You will not need to park it, you only pay for the driven distance and can be productive while driving. Our kids will never get a driver's license and will never own a car. It will change the cities, because we will need 90-95% fewer cars for that. We can transform former parking space into parks. 1.2 million people die each year in car accidents worldwide. We now have one accident every 100,000 km, with autonomous driving that will drop to one accident in 10 million km. That will save a million lives each year.

Most car companies may become bankrupt. Traditional car companies try the evolutionary approach and just build a better car, while tech companies (Tesla, Apple, Google) will do the revolutionary approach and build a computer on wheels. I spoke to a lot of engineers from Volkswagen and Audi; they are completely terrified of Tesla.

Insurance Companies will have massive trouble because without accidents, the insurance will become 100x cheaper. Their car insurance business model will disappear.

Real estate will change. Because if you can work while you commute, people will move further away to live in a more beautiful neighborhood.

Electric cars won’t become mainstream until 2020. Cities will be less noisy because all cars will run on electric. Electricity will become incredibly cheap and clean: Solar production has been on an exponential curve for 30 years, but you can only now see the impact. Last year, more solar energy was installed worldwide than fossil. The price for solar will drop so much that all coal companies will be out of business by 2025.

With cheap electricity comes cheap and abundant water. Desalination now only needs 2kWh per cubic meter. We don't have scarce water in most places, we only have scarce drinking water. Imagine what will be possible if anyone can have as much clean water as he wants, for nearly no cost.

Health: There will be companies that will build a medical device (called the "Tricorder" from Star Trek) that works with your phone, which takes your retina scan, your blood sample and you breathe into it. It then analyses 54 biomarkers that will identify nearly any disease. It will be cheap, so in a few years everyone on this planet will have access to world class medicine, nearly for free.

3D printing: The price of the cheapest 3D printer came down from $18,000 to $400 within 10 years. In the same time, it became 100 times faster. All major shoe companies started 3D printing shoes. Spare airplane parts are already 3D printed in remote airports. The space station now has a printer that eliminates the need for the large number of spare parts they used to have in the past.

At the end of this year, new smart phones will have 3D scanning possibilities. You can then 3D scan your feet and print your perfect shoe at home. In China, they already 3D printed a complete 6-storey office building. By 2027, 10% of everything that's being produced will be 3D printed.

Business Opportunities: If you think of a niche you want to go in, ask yourself: "in the future, do you think we will have that?" and if the answer is yes, how can you make that happen sooner? If it doesn't work with your phone, forget the idea. And any idea designed for success in the 20th century is doomed in to failure in the 21st century.

Work: 70-80% of jobs will disappear in the next 20 years. There will be a lot of new jobs, but it is not clear if there will be enough new jobs in such a small time.

Agriculture: There will be a $100 agricultural robot in the future. Farmers in 3rd world countries can then become managers of their field instead of working all days on their fields. Agroponics will need much less water. The first Petri dish produced veal is now available and will be cheaper than cow-produced veal in 2018. Right now, 30% of all agricultural surfaces is used for cows. Imagine if we don't need that space anymore. There are several startups that will bring insect protein to the market shortly. It contains more protein than meat. It will be labeled as "alternative protein source" (because most people still reject the idea of eating insects).

There is an app called "moodies" which can already tell in which mood you are. Until 2020 there will be apps that can tell by your facial expressions if you are lying. Imagine a political debate where it's being displayed when they are telling the truth and when not.

Bitcoin will become mainstream this year and might even become the default reserve currency.

Longevity: Right now, the average life span increases by 3 months per year. Four years ago, the life span used to be 79 years, now it's 80 years. The increase itself is increasing and by 2036, there will be more than one year increase per year. So we all might live for a long long time, probably way more than 100.

: The cheapest smart phones are already at $10 in Africa and Asia. Until 2020, 70% of all humans will own a smart phone. That means, everyone has the same access to world class education.

Robert M. Goldman MD, PhD, DO, FAASP


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